It seems as you are always hearing that foster homes are needed but I ask myself all the time if that is really the case.
I started doing DCS foster care back in about 2003. I got into doing foster care to help out a family member that needed a home.
We took in all the teenage boys and let’s just say that was stressful but rewarding.
We left Tennessee in September of 2010 and called DCS and told them to close our home we were moving. At that time we had no current foster children and had not had for a while.
The summer of 2014 we had decided we wanted to move back. No place was home like Tennessee. In June 2014 we bought a house, in July of 2014 my grandson was born and we were needed to raise him.
My grandson was born in Michigan and we needed a home study done to get his case transfer to Tennessee so we could move to our home that was already purchased.
To make a long story short, Tennessee would NOT do a home study without making us go through the whole foster care classes, background checks, and the hassle of becoming a foster home before they would do the Home Study.
Adoption became final and we closed our home in September of 2015. We once again reopened our home for a friend in need. Not so bad third time around.
With our home open and having two complete empty bedrooms and a room that has an extra twin bed we have been empty for two months. We have 5 empty twin beds, toddler bed, and a baby bed. We agreed to all ages.
We reschedule our lives to do our required training. I have called to see if there was an investigation and I was told no but the home office could have a hold put on our home. I was told I would get called back by my advocate that I called and guess what?? No callback and no answers.
Still no answers as to what is going on. I did talk to my Foster Parent Support Worker and got asked three times on three different occasions when the last children left. I did get told at that time that homes slip through the cracks.
So, am I wrong for believing you could get better treatment if you were really needed? How do you slip through the cracks when they tell you in training that kids have slept on office floors because they have no place to put them?
If DCS does need homes, then I feel the system is broken and needs to be fixed! I completely understand foster parents getting frustrated and just saying, hey if that is how much I am worth to you, then I am done!
I love doing foster care because I have the love for every child. I have the home to share and the time, I just have lost my patients with the Department Of Children Services. Nobody should feel like they have done something wrong with no explanation as to why. This leaves them feeling hurt and not good enough.
My next step is deciding if I should stay or go.