Day 8 of my 500 words challenge- My son John William Mosher.
My son John was born on July 11, 1992, and went to be with God on February 22, 2012.
When I was pregnant with John I was unsure of what my life was. I was in a bad marriage and wanted out. I was only 19 years old and pregnant with my third child. I was on birth control when John conceived. I was about 6 months pregnant before I accepted my pregnancy. This caused me a lot of guilt for the way I felt and this is why I believe John and I had a very strong bond.
While I was carrying John I thought about finding someone to take him that could give him more than I could. That never happened because I loved this little boy before I gave birth and could not even dream of not having him in my life. John was an early delivery and my mom is the one that talked me into giving him the name John (after his sperm donor).
John was that toddler I had to hold all the time, even when going pee. John was that toddler that slept with me until he was about 4 years. John was that toddler that didn’t allow anyone to touch me including his dad Bill. There was no separating us.
When John was six weeks from being 4 years old, Billy Jr was born. This caused John to dislike his baby brother very much. The jealousy stayed with him until shortly before he went to heaven. Billy and John got to bond some shortly before he passed away and this I am very grateful for.
John was a good kid in school when he was in elementary but once he got in Jr High things changed. John struggled with learning and the schools were refusing to test him for learning disabilities. John had been in counseling and we got recommend to take him to Chattanooga TN for testing. John indeed did have learning disabilities. Jackson County middle school in Gainesboro, TN still refused him services because they could not provide them. The special education department tried to get John into schools in Cookeville, TN where the services he needed could be provided. Cookeville, Putnam county schools also denied him. So finally John started attending school two counties away from home. This was also another nightmare. One thing I can tell you from my experiences in dealing with a situation like this is if you do NOT know your rights or your child’s rights and they have a learning disability is to educate yourself on these rights or hire a lawyer. It will be worth it. I will try to write more on that if anyone has an interest in my story and how I dealt with the schools.
John struggled with school so much that when he turned 16 years old and could legally quit school in the state of Michigan, he moved to Michigan with my mom. I let this happen because in all honestly the schools where we lived were worthless and I could not see him keep getting into trouble when the school had some blame but not much was done to them.
While John was with my mom we moved to Arkansas. John came to Arkansas to live with us. There was this place across the street and John was fixing it up and living in it. I was in the process of trying to get John some medical insurance and then get him some mental help. John was depressed and suffered from Bipolar. John moved to Arkansas in January 2012.
John and I could talk about our feelings and understand how each other felt. John and I are a lot alike. The big difference between us is that John couldn’t keep control of his anger but I keep control of mine unless it is someone hurting one of the kids.
John had a big heart and would help anyone if he could. John also was the type of person that if you did him wrong he held a grudge forever. John easily made friends and had plenty. He also didn’t have any issue with the girls. John, for the most part, was a good person and easy to love. There is so much more to tell but not for this post.