If you have a loved one that has recently suffered an accident, then it can be traumatic for everyone. Their life could be completely different as a result. You might be looking for ways to help them but are just not sure what is the best thing to do. But doing something is better than nothing. I think that just being there can be one of the best things that you can do. They might not want to talk, but just be and know you are there. They might have a physical change or disfigurement as the result of an accident. So knowing that you will still treat them the same can mean so much when they are going through a traumatic life change. But if you’d like to help them, here are a few ideas.
One of the worst questions you can ask someone, no matter how sincere you are, is for them to let you know if they need anything. How many of is will actually admit to needing help and let someone know we are in need. I am thinking not many. Especially if someone has been in a traumatic incident and they aren’t even sure what they need. Be proactive and just do things. Cooking and preparing meals can be a heaven-sent gift for someone who could be feeling low or depressed. They might not have the motivation or ability to get out to the store yet. So a healthy and wholesome cooked meal can do the world of good. Look at somewhere like www.pinterest.com for meal ideas if you’re not sure what would be best. The same goes for getting groceries for them. When you are doing your own, throw in a few extras for them. This kind of thing will be far from their mind when they have had a trauma.
It might be a good idea to look into recovery programs for them or people they could talk to. They can, of course, always talk to you. So let them know that you are there for them when they feel able. You could look into counseling or perhaps even speaking to a lawyer if the accident was a result of something out of their control. This would be totally up to them. But you could do a little research at somewhere like www.asb-aspire.com to get yourself up to scratch.
Mostly it is just the day-to-day that they will need help to get through. It might be turning up with a broom and cleaning their house or doing laundry. You could offer to take them to appointments, watch kids if they have them or just showing up with a movie and their favorite snack. Just showing you care is the key thing. Just be prepared to have your kindness be greeted with a little hostility. Through frustration, your friend will be feeling angry and upset. Just know that it isn’t aimed at you and you should still keep trying. They just need time to get used to how things will now be. Good luck and well done!